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10 Tips for Parenting Your Unreasonable Child

We are on day 5,892 of self-isolation…well not really, but it sure does seem that way doesn’t it?

We are smack dab in week FIVE of 24hr parenting; with no relief in our day by sending the kids to daycare, preschool, or actual school!

Now more than ever, we are wearing ALL the hats… we the parent, the teacher, the chef, the housecleaner, the doctor, the dentist, the nurse, the playmate, the entertainer, the librarian, the EVERYTHING!

If ever there was a time that your children have gotten on your nerves and that their lack of listening and following simple instructions/requests pushed you over the edge…this is it! You simply do not understand why your child is blatantly disrespecting you and purposefully disobeying you.

Well, first off - if you think that they are purposefully doing these things than you are assuming that they are reasonable beings….and that your child's behavior is coming from a reasonable place. Well, it isn’t! Our children by nature, aren’t reasonable beings. Most of what they do, most of their behaviors that annoy us, come out of impulses, out of stress, out of emotions that they don’t know how to name, handle or work through.

And, if in your house, you happen to have any new added stresses such as a new baby, a new pet, one or both parents home full time AND new schooling schedules, well then you have the makings of a perfect storm!

By definition, ‘unreasonable’ means “not guided or based on good sense”. Well if there was ever a word that described children this would be it! Rarely do children make any decisions or take any actions based on good sense!

In addition, RIGHT NOW is a time unlike any other they would have experienced! The past month and the next few months are equivalent to one BIG transition for our kids. Children and transitions do not traditionally go well together. Many children have extreme challenges with them. This is what preschool and school do so well!, teach our children how to transition from one activity to another. Now, we are the only ones helping them navigate all the feelings around not only the transition in the house but the huge transition that is taking place in the world.

In today’s episode, I talk you through 10 parenting tips & strategies to help you with your child during this difficult time.

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10 Tips for Parenting Your Unreasonable Child Stephanie Kennedy